my mom walked past me after turning off the tree and when i went to hug her, she walked THROUGH my arm, and when i told her "hey don't you want a hug?" she cattily said that I SEEMED BUSY
(she's upset because while i was driving home, she was complaining the whole time, and then complaining while i was trying to decompress, and i got frustrated)
(i wasn't nasty. i wasn't mean. i was just audibly stressed out, so i explained "hey it's not you, i had a shitty day and i'm in pain, so if i have a tone delivery problem, it's not on purpose")
she does do a lot around the house. i grant her this. but i'm tired of hearing how doing stuff around the house is more taxing than my very physical 40 hour a week job, where i actively go in to disasters every day and have to fix them