you made him mad at me. I hope you're happy. We leave for myrtle beach in 2 days, and he's pissed.

Thank you for ruining my first vacation in 5 years before it even had a chance to start.

I hope you're proud of your expert debating skills, and calling him narrow minded and stupid. Thank you for making my husband mad at me

for no reason

thank you

truely

........

She had no intention of causing a problem in your marriage, or even in your everyday life but if I had to guess, the latter is all that`s

been disturbed. Jin may have a bad day from this, maybe two, but come time for you guys to leave, I`m guessing he`ll leave any feelings of

discontent behind and focus on enjoying himself. He may even "get over it" long before leaving. You should be fine on your vacay. but again

Heleen had no intention of causing people to have a bad day or creating some kind of rift between people just because of disagreements on

personal issues/beliefs, whatev`s. She just wanted to express her views the same as anybody else. Now this next part may seem insensitive

but I think you`ll see the sense in it. What Heleen says, -let`s say even if it was meant to be insulting which I`m sure it wasnt- is her

responsibility, she may be mean, she may not, whatever. BUT! how others take it to affect their lives is honestly THEIR OWN responsibility.

Nobody forces anyone to take offense to anything. That process happens within the person. and if somebody decides to get all in a huff over

a disagreement on a personal beliefs level between people who were/are friendly on every other level... that`s the offended person`s choice

to make. You can make the conscious choice to get upset about a disagreement or learn to live and let live and get over your disagreements.

and to choose to be offended is, in my opinion, to go down the path that leads to soooo many wars in this world. That`s my 2 cents on this

matter and, obviously, many other matters. Take it as you will.

and actually, I`m gonna go one last step further here... He deleted his account so he can never talk to any of us here, and more than that,

he started insulting YOU, over something that someone that you have no control or influence over, said to him? What does that say to you

about his maturity, his temper, his ability to make decisions rationally in any ACTUAL difficult situation? I mean again, this was just

a disagreement on the internet, i definitely dont wanna know what would happen if somebody triggered his anger in a situation like this one

in real life. I`ve had friends who were over-reactors and dramatically short-tempered. I can`t be around people like that for long.

and I personally can`t understand how anyone else puts up with people like that. but again, that was taking things a step further, probably

unnecessarily but, gosh, what`s YOUR take on all that?

Thank you Tryiian. You said things I wanted to say but was to afraid to do so. I don't want to loose any friends over this. ._.