IDK

Both, I think, since you have to find something somewhat arousing to want to have sex with it.

What if you find it arousing but wouldn't ever in all honesty have sex with it?

IDK you're still like ... attracted to it but I think it counts?

like, that music video I showed you! it's like WOW, YOU ARE REALLY HOT AND SEX WITH YOU WOULD BE VERY TEMPTING. BUT. HAHAHA NO.

No, but if it isn't tempting!

If it's more of a "yeah, that's hot" but, like. Interest ends there.

then .... I AM NOT SURE WHAT YOU MEAN EXACTLY?

I'M NOT SURE I KNOW WHAT I MEAN EITHER let me think here.

Hmmmm I am not sure exactly if you found it *attractive* at all then because doesn't attractive sort of imply "i'd hit that?"

I don't know! I have had many many instances where I have found people attractive but am not at all interested in hitting that.

"I find this person incredibly aesthetically pleasing" is a different thing

Oh, yeah, visually and sexually are two different things.

But I've had sexual responses to people while not actually wanting to have sex with them and I don't. Know if that's a psychological thing

or a social thing or a habitual thing or what.

Yeah I think you're still attracted to them.

BUT LIKE, your logic brain still interferes sort of. You WOULDN'T EVER, but like... idk.

so maybe TEMPTING is the wrong word because it implies that you are like, DEBATING WITH YOURSELF. When you are not exactly

Okay, so then. If you find men sexually attractive, and are interested in having sex with them,

and you find women sexually attractive, and are NOT interested in having sex with them

(like, at all, ever, you aren't just CHOOSING not to have sex with them for whatever reason, there is no desire for actual sex),

are you bisexual?

(Note that this is not my actual case, it is just the least confusing way I could think of putting it.)

UH. Hrn.

This is my dilemma.

I think adding the BISEXUAL bit sort of confuses things though, because when it comes to HOW TO ID IN THE QUEER COMMUNITY that is different.

like technically you might be bisexual but in *that* case, you'd better call yourself straight.

BASICALLY YOUR ANALOGY BRINGS LIKE, A WHOLE DIFFERENT SET OF ISSUES so like better to just say it straight.

Fffft okay then I should probably just identify myself as bisexual. I think.

Or perhaps I should just lay out my 'rules' as I know them and let you guys come up with a name.

Seeing as when I am attracted to someone, I am not at all ever romantically or sexually attracted to anyone else at all.

'Attracted' in the sense of even remotely entertaining even the fantasy of being with another person.

But I will still occasionally think so-and-so is hot.

I'm not sure that that counts as being monogamous, because it isn't really a conscious choice for me. There is literally no interest past

the initial observation of someone else being sexually attractive, it's more like a side note or something.

This is true regardless of whether the person I am attracted to is actually attracted to me in return. I literally cannot like anyone else

while I like that person.

I don't know if that's a sexuality really...? That could just be like, your personality.

mmm, it's tricky. Sounds more like you don't fit in the 'bi/gay/straight' labels... unless you take a very generic 'bisexual'

It's almost more like you're [person]sexual. Like, idk, georgesexual, or katiesexual

Yeah but how do you tell? :|a I mean, the difference between being asexual and being chaste is that one is a choice and the other is just a

state of being, right?

Asexual is... not having the -interest- or -want- for sex-- chaste is choosing to ignore the wants

Yeah! I've always personally identified as sort of single-target sexual, I guess. That's the only term for it I can think of. But it applies

romantically too, and FUCK YOU INTERNET stop lagging while I'm trying to have srs discussion.

It gets really confusing when I'm between people I like.

Also when I like someone who doesn't like me back, which is pretty much just terrible terrible limbo.

i'd call you bisexual. /shrug

I mean the rest of it doesn't have much to do with bi/gay/whateverness. THAT IS JUST, idk, YOU.

Y'okay then.

Ahaha, that makes sense.

"bisexual" doesn't also like, come with a HOW OFTEN YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO PEOPLE/WHAT YOU DO WHEN YOU ARE precondition.

BUT THAT'S JUST ME

I HONESTLY MIGHT BE PANSEXUAL but since I have never known anyone transgendered or whatever during a time that I am NOT targeting on someone

I can't say for sure.

I have the feeling that the potential is there but. Idek.

nooooo, don't use pansexual like that D8

a lot of trans people find that really offensive, because it implies that they're this ~extra gender~ instead of like, just dudes or chicks

I SAID OR WHATEVER I couldn't really think of how else to put it. I HAVE ONLY EVER HAD THE OPPORTUNITY TO BE ATTRACTED TO BIOLOGICAL GUYS

AND GIRLS.

YEAH even that distinctions is sort of .... :/

I might have the potential to be romantically attracted to all possible gender combinations but I honestly cannot say.

Well how should I put it then? DX

IT'S REALLY BEST TO THINK OF TRANSMEN AND TRANSWOMEN AS JUST MEN AND WOMEN man. unless they like, specifically ID as genderqueer.

gender neutral. whatever.

SO LIKE, THEY STILL COUNT UNDER BEING BI

....THEN WHAT COUNTS UNDER BEING PAN? :|a

Just genderqueer? Because I will say genderqueer from now on if that's the case.

no no, like some people ID as like genderqueer, rather than like, male or female.

REGARDLESS the only genderqueer person I can recall knowing personally is Nella, and she's taken.

but if they id as men or women, just say that?

.....I don't know if that fits into my original statement of "I think I might be pansexual but I don't know for sure since I've never had

the opportunity to find out if I can be attracted to _____".

TBH I AM NOT REALLY EDUCATED ENOUGH ON TRANS ISSUES TO REALLY BADGER YOU ON THIS but like, using pansexual specifically to include trans

I meant trans and genderqueer and everything else out there! I just didn't want to try and fit it all in one plurk, I don't even know what

everything out there *is*.

But I can see how some people might take offense.

Auuuugh verbal minefield.

folks really bugs me, and also I don't really see why you have to FIND OUT if you are attracted to trans people.

like, if you attracted to dudes, you're attracted to DUDES, and et cetera.

....I guess?

Idk it's late and I'm not thinking clearly.

S'COOL so yeah, anyhow, I'd just go with bi if you wanna call yourself something

I know logically that there probably isn't much difference between a biological dude and a transgendered dude but surely there must be SOME?

Mnerf.

there a term for only being sexually attracted to people on a purely case-by-case basis. :| I honestly don't feel I can say I ONLY LIKE

GIRLS OR DUDES but at the same time I don't have the experience to say otherwise so I am just.

Talking in circles it seems.

.........I am calling myself awesomesexual and calling a night. I AM SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO PPL I AM ROMANTICALLY ATTRACTED TO, AND

I AM ROMANTICALLY ATTRACTED TO PEOPLE WHOM I FIND SUBJECTIVELY AWESOME, WHO CAN LIKELY BUT NOT DEFINITELY BE OF ANY GENDER IDENTIFICATION.

I THINK.

God I don't even knooooow and I have work in five hours I am passing out now.

awesomesexual, for the record. :|9

does too. Does not like the distinct *lack* of awesome happening in the other plurk.

x________x;;