i feel really bad for having such a huge amount of hostility for this kid who is trying to date my sister

i mean is it wrong of me to think that he needs to have a bit more consideration?

dustun hasn't even been dead for a year and emily is like a plethora of emotional problems

like... am i expecting too much of him when i say that he should know better?

i don't find it appropriate. it's one thing to just pursue a friendship with her but he started out from the get go trying to date her

and i just think he's taking advantage of a situation where she is not emotionally well and the positive attention she receives from him makes her feel like

she can forget about the pain of losing dustun

she gets super defensive and upset though and it just makes me feel really annoyed at her?

i just dont know how someone get pretend to be over something like that

i just dont know how she can let some completely new dude into her life (whose name is literally.. dustin.) like this i just dont get it

i just feel annoyed at both of them for doing this

have a bit of decency ffs

i KNOW THAT THEY ARE JUST.. KIDS.. LIKE THEY ARENT EVEN REAL PEOPLE YET SO I cant be mad at them but im kind of concerned of the things

that people say about my sister bc she looks like she's ~moved on~ like they basically are either saying

a.) you need to get over it

or b.) you got over it TOO QUICKLY

like???? high school kids.

i think its right for you to be concerned but i dont think the kid is meaning to be an asshat like he might still be an asshat he most likely is he's a teenage boy but i mean

i don't think he understands simply because he's NEVER been in that situation how he might be taking advantage of her or how immediately trying to date her might be negative

he doesn't have the experience for that and can't begin to put himself in the shoes of that, like for us it's common sense, for a teenage boy his logic is, "well she looks and sounds fine so she is"

"i'm not doing anything wrong"

teens aren't dense so much as naive and self centered, even without meaning to, you have to give them that benefit of the doubt. either way if she's not listening to you idk

in all people have experienced something that heavy, it takes for them to actually be put in a situation where they're in a relationship to realize that they're affected by it

they want to believe they're over it, so they will. you can only really hope for the best.

yeah nicky's totally right

and i think the fact that emily is so open to receiving this kind of attention doesn't do him any favors y'know what i mean

maybe he DID consider this is too much but he sees how well-accepted this all is and is like "oh it's cool"