I hate not knowing how to help the people I care about. Especially since so many of them are so far away that all I can really do is offer to listen/talk it out

Sometimes I feel like I'm not doing enough. And sometimes I wonder if I'm saying the wrong things. I kind of stumble looking for words and thinking of how best to phrase things

There are times I start to wonder if some people only really view me as a shoulder to cry on and then I feel bad for thinking that.

Cuz most of the people who turn to me when things are upsetting them will make sure I'm actually up to handling that kind of thing at the time.

And all of them talk to me about more than just their problems.

Still I feel helpless when I sit with someone for hours, talking them through things until they're okay and then I have to do the same thing the next night. And the next.

I'm glad to help but am I really helping if we keep coming back to this night after night?

idk I just feel emotionally drained and I wish I knew how to better help......