What made losing my dad just a tiny bit easier, was not having regrets. We had a great relationship but I still felt that I needed to tell him things, so I did. Hearing is the last to go, so even if you think

the person can't hear, they likely can. Say what you need to say...

I don't know what else to say. If you need to talk you can IM me.

I'm so very sorry. I wish I had answers. I just lost my Mom on July 18th and handling it I am not.

I know she was ready to go at the end, I could just tell she was done. But even knowing that does not make anything any easier.

Seeing her suffering was the worst. But I'm glad she isn't suffering anymore.

I'm also willing to talk anytime I wish I had better answers.

My dad made it very easy for us, as in .. until the very last moment of conciousness, he was calm and accepting, the way he has lived basically. What did make a difference i think is that he was at peace with

the world. He had no unsolved issues with the people in his life, and with his family, we've had the time to say everything that needed saying.

I was so young when I lost my mother, that I don't remember a lot of the details. But I know it was important for her to know that everyone she loved was going to be OK, and that she got to see all her children

one last time. Then she slipped away. She'd been sick a very long time, so we were all expecting it, and in a way, it was a relief that knew she wasn't suffering anymore.

when my dad died, i was able to cope because i was warned in advance. the watching him suffer in the end was hard though because i cared so much. nothing about it is easy but you can cope by being with friends,

and people who care about you.

talk to them, and tell them you love them. be with them as much as you can manage.

help them with what ever final wishes they might need help with.

after his death, and my mother's death, i also sought out counseling because i needed it. grief is a heavy thing. be open to talking about it and don't bottle it up or make yourself feel guilty for it.

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When my stepdad died it was very sudden, but before he left he let us all know that he loved us and that we'd made his life complete. I think it's important to get these feelings out there and let it be known

how much you really care for eachother, spend as much time as you can together, and treasure every moment you can. but everyone in the world is different, so while some people might just want to have fun

and smile a few more times before they go and not think about the heavy things, others might want to talk about it and be more up front too. I think you will probably know best as you've spent a lot more time

knowing them.

I think what most people want to know is that you will be strong enough to carry on and take care of other survivors, members of your family, etc, because you're all going to need eachother.

But also that they will be missed and not forgotten.

It's the hardest thing in the world to watch this who helped us grow in pain and dying. Yiu are already doing what he needs by being there

For him. I will say you also need to take moments of selfishness and look after yourself too. I remember sitting on the toilet for 1/2 hour

Just to give myself me time when going through something similar with my grandfather who raised me