I just got off the phone with a local pro Domme from the west side of Chicago

She bought a building and has been working on turning it into a Dungeon

She's seen my work and talked with some of the people I've rigged at the Dungeon I'm moonlighting at now and she wants me to come down and talk about being a regular Rigger for the space after they open

actual Pro Kink shit!

Any plurk that starts with [BDSM] YES! has to be a good one

This is a very good one

Lots of networking in the community may pay off

That there is such a community is really cool. It's always fucking fascinating to me when you talk about this stuff

it's just cool that so many people are so understanding, friendly, and supportive about stuff that's normally taboo to discuss

I want to

learn

from her

The Taboos of the Community can be weird and vary from group to group. It depends on what philosophy of BDSM they follow but they tend to let you know when you get there

Some things are universal and what is expected in different venue's are pretty self explanatory

If the Munch is at an Applebees, Don't wear the Gimp Suit

And yes, Vou

All the things. I'm really hope things work out. If anything she wants Shibari lessons from me and for to do some floor shows.

Be a Domme. make corsets your Work Cloths

I want it but how to start......

A couple different ways, really. One is to go thru the Lifestylers. Go to the big munches that are hosted at the local Dungeons. Large groups, older crowd, more experienced who can point you at some Dommes

The Community exists as its own mentorship entity. Its why the Swingers hate hanging out with us. We spend hours talking and teaching and never actually do anything

They just stand around wondering. "Ok.. they are all listening to this guy talk about flogger techniques...when are we going to fuck?"

Finding a mentor is easy to teach you the basic stuff. Fuck I can teach people how to flog and whip and bind and I'm a Slave! The finer points of being a Pro Domme you need an experienced Mistress to help you.

Pro work is different from Lifestyle. In Lifestyle you and your partner find what you like and explore those fantasies. Its a lifestyle. In Pro you have to fulfill and be someone else's fantasy and become it.

Haha funny enoug

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Through Gamagori in Tana I play out either side

Personal/lifestyle is an agreement and compromise

While Pro is like commission.

That's how I've always written it.

yup. Do what they want, not always what you want

but you get to wear rubber and corsets

As a rigger, its easy they just say "tie me up like this!" and I do it. With a Domme its "Be my Goddess"...that's a tall order

Lets see....in your area in the next couple of weeks you have a Ladies only Femdom meetup, A Worship Workshop/Play Party, A pay at the door fetish orgy with a Pro Domme in attendance

and a few local munches

Where do you look through?

I'm never sure what looks legit.

Fetlife

Aahhh okay

everything is posted there now

its is the hub of the Kink Communities. Pros, Lifestyles, SSC, RACK, everyone is there posting events

local dungeons have private websites but anything posted on it will be posted on Fet

Obviously I gotta move to a bigger city

here in KY, even in Louisville there's like nothing on Fetlife

The problem is that with Chicago, its still....the Midwest. So everyone is kinky but no one talks about it. The Coasts have all the clubs and a super open lifestyle about the whole thing.

Here is still very behind closed doors.

All that Cheese and Corn Fed Christian Values!

lotta race stuff here in KY

and a weekly humpday coffee munch