I personally don't intend to pay for my kids' college experiences. I expect them to do scholarships, jobs, and yes even loans

I've already told them we don't intend to pay. We will help out, of course, with expenses like food and whatnot

But don't intend to pay for tuition. They do have some college accounts, we contribute a little to them

But they aren't going to cover it all and that's ok with us

Anyway - my mom told me I was selfish for not paying and that it was my responsibility and I disagree

Especially since for us to pay for all of it, we'd have to lose our retirement savings to put money towards college instead

I think she's wrong. What do you think? Should parents have to pay for their kids' college?

I agree with you wholeheartedly. We're not paying tuition, but we help with food/housing. I think they need skin in the game.

Jessi has loans and grants to cover most of hers. We will help out with the food, but she has a food plan, it would just be for extras.

We will add BlazerBucks which she can use at multiple places around campus for snacks and any emergency need she may have.

Yeah, I won't pay for college. My aunt set up a very generous account for them, however I just won't have the money.

I firmly believe it's part of the kids' jobs to earn scholarships.

Totally skin in the game - I read some article on Forbes recently that said kids who paid their way had better grades

There's something about the personal responsibility, I think. I think my own folks did me a disservice

Paying for me

Like I could have gone to college for FREE at a couple of good schools

But because somebody else was paying for it, I chose Duke.

Our kids are all paying for their college. We'll chip in for food every now and again but they're responsible.

They also know this early on and we point out scholarship options are better the better they do in school, etc.

Andy paid way more for his college than Benjy did mainly because of grades. Benjy got more scholarship money.

So basically what you're saying is im not a selfish bastard

I mean if I am, then all of us are.

Or maybe I'm a selfish bastard, just not on this issue

I actually thought it was normal to expect the kid to contribute- i was confused by her reaction

Some kids might think differently but I think their the ones being selfish. 😃

Timmy is the only one I might pay something towards only because he's the youngest and I won't be supporting the rest of his siblings still. Hopefully.

I think it teaches personal responsibility for finances and grades. Hand it to them and there's a risk.

Most of the kids here, get financial aid of some sort and the guidance counselor is wonderful at finding scholarships

I don't know of a student who isn't responsible for the majority of their college. Some parents help but they don't just pay for it.

My parents straight up paid. I think it was a mistake. There was too little personal responsibility for me, I think.