Monogamy is obviously not his natural inclination

he likes too many kinds of sex to be able to expect everything out of one partner?

and also he does not want to be...solely responsible for anybody's.....Anything. Even Leo he shared like. responsibility for with Owain, and i think being Leo's sole confidant at the end of birthright compounded by UHHHH BIRTHRIGHT weighs heavily on him

because he KNOWS he's not. gonna say the right things. so he wants anyone he's with to have someone like that. to go to. for things he can't help with.

HOWEVER

as someone with deep running abandonment issues, he understands why monogamy is important to some people, and depending on how much he cared about that person he'd be willing to Try.

like if he were in an Actual Relationship with Leo, leo would have total veto power over potential partners, or if there were any at all.

It probably wouldn't be the. best thing for him, which is why it's good that it's not something Leo would ask of him probably.

so basically, Niles is obligate poly*.

*some exceptions do apply

I frankly love how Niles is super unhealthy but knows it

and can therefore adapt to healthier behaviors for the sake of whomever he's in a relationship with sgjjgd

YEAH ITS EASY TO IMPROVE to help other people sa;wehsd rip

i've been through worse so I can handle this, but YOU don't need to get dragged into any new problems by me type attitude

nods sagely

honestly I figure Niles would be happiest in any kind of relationship - so long as honest communication was emphasized as the most important thing

he wouldn't demand it, of course, but that's exactly why it'd be so significant

having a partner that cared for and respected him enough to insist on checking in with him about things they want to do - and thus flustering him because wtf why are you treating me like I'm important and like my feelings matter

yeah he could ABSOLUTELY settle into monogamy

buT YES THAT TOO lmao

SPEAKING OF HIM!!!