seastheday
2022-07-02T18:50:57.000Z
House Stuff
latest #82
seastheday
2022-07-02T18:51:06.000Z
I just generally wanted a place to lump all of this.
seastheday
2022-07-02T18:51:47.000Z
So, my SO and I are trying to buy a house. The lease on this house is up in September, and we've been working on the paperwork necessary to buy a house since like... god. April, I think?
seastheday
2022-07-02T18:51:55.000Z
And we're finally on the "go look at houses" stage.
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seastheday
2022-07-02T18:52:15.000Z
Full disclosure btw because in America WAY TOO MUCH EMPHASIS is placed on "getting a house" as a measure of success and wealth, etc.
seastheday
2022-07-02T18:53:26.000Z
We are ONLY able to do this because of generational wealth-- we've managed enough stability and money to be able to afford a house and be reasonably certain that the slings and arrows of life won't cause owning a house to be a terrible mistake, but we have NOT managed enough to afford a down payment in our area.
seastheday
2022-07-02T18:54:25.000Z
So like, I am very proud of the work both of us have done to be able to do this, but also we are VERY VERY LUCKY and a product of circumstance and we really needed BOTH of those things to even have a chance.
seastheday
2022-07-02T18:55:27.000Z
With that basis out of the way
seastheday
2022-07-02T18:55:33.000Z
Y'all house shopping SUCKS.
seastheday
2022-07-02T18:56:39.000Z
Like, the market has stabilized a LITTLE bit just in the past few months, but we saw FIVE houses yesterday, which seems like a lot all in one day. Of those houses, two of them are ALREADY off the market, including our first choice (though it's not fully sold yet, so we're still trying to get in as the backup if the deal falls through)
seastheday
2022-07-02T18:57:03.000Z
And of the remaining three, there were MULTIPLE other people there looking at two of them just while we were there. >_<
seastheday
2022-07-02T18:58:02.000Z
We're going to look at three more today, which like, we need to do, but all the loan people are gone until Tuesday so we won't be able to move on them over the weekend, whereas it's possible someone else MIGHT be able to move on them if they already were working with their bank,
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:00:02.000Z
And of course it's really frustrating because you can't just like, bid on everything, you have to think about and rank stuff, and we're in a price range where we're mostly looking at houses that are 40-50 years old so there's a lot of like trying to figure out if the work that needs to be done on one place justifies it's difference in price from anothere etc
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:00:44.000Z
And I'm not SUPER picky about what we get-- I have a list of things that would be nice to have, of course, but it's not super concrete stuff.
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:02:10.000Z
Like, I would like a covered patio. I like having space in the kitchen regardless of how it's decorated. I would love to have a large tub in one of the bathrooms. Pool isn't at all needed, but is a plus rather than a minus. I like houses that have some character or have something weird about them. I like having a lot of light etc etc
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:02:21.000Z
But like, none of those are dealbreakers to a house that has other things.
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:02:49.000Z
But I want a house I buy to feel like my home? Like I don't just want a house, I want a house where I look at it and go "ah yes, my house"
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:03:44.000Z
And we've been very lucky in that most of the houses that have come on the market in the right area seem to have that vibe for me. But it also means I REALLY need to see a house and kind of roll around in it before I even know if I'm interested a lot of the time.
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:04:56.000Z
Like, I swore up and down that the main thing I DIDN'T want was to live in a house that was just a two-story cube.
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:07:44.000Z
And by that, I meant houses that looked like this: https://imgs.plurk.com/QBp/Fuy/lKougEtPiDDzPHSSo1TdxaROD4d_lg.jpg
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:07:58.000Z
But then our top choice house is LITERALLY A CUBE.
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:09:05.000Z
Like this: https://imgs.plurk.com/QBp/mb7/goqfRadXAgXWEc7FIIw6FuWCN4c_lg.jpg
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:09:33.000Z
(Those are both WAY nicer/bigger than what we're looking at, btw, but I dont' know enoguh about house volcabulary to find something better)
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:10:53.000Z
But the cube house was one where I looked at pictures and was like... okay but the inside is cute and then when we walked in I was just struck by like... no, this is my house.
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:11:31.000Z
Whereas there was a very nice house we looked at, probably the best combination of price and age and in-good-repair out of the lot but I was just kind of like... no. This is someone else's house.
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:11:46.000Z
But there's no like... specific thing I can really point to that makes me feel that way.
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:15:40.000Z
But then that means that like... the emotional weight of looking around is greater than I feel like maybe it is for some other people?
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:16:02.000Z
Like, I can see a whole future me in my top pick houses.
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:16:44.000Z
And so there's a certain amount of like... that whole future me vanishes when we don't get the house.
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:17:22.000Z
Or if we pick another house.
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:17:44.000Z
And that whole future me is in limbo while we're waiting to hear back from the loan people etc etc etc.
คςєภคгtєς๏
2022-07-02T19:18:20.000Z
wish i could help, but can confirm, house buying sucks.
คςєภคгtєς๏
2022-07-02T19:18:24.000Z
especially in a hot market.
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:19:27.000Z
It's not like, crazy overwhelming or anything, but it definitely took me by surprise yesterday when we went to look at stuff and I sort of shut down for a bit afterwards. There was just an emotional and mental toll I was sort of anticipating because of other people I've known who have shopped for houses, but which I was not read
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:19:34.000Z
ready for the INTENSITY of.
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:20:18.000Z
And it all has to be done SO QUICKLY. Like I think the average time a house is on the market in our area is like, 5 days?
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:20:27.000Z
Which is higher than some places, even!
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:20:55.000Z
AND we have the "good fortune" of wanting a kind of quirky weird little place versus a "normal" house.
seastheday
2022-07-02T19:21:42.000Z
But yeah. It's very stressful and emotional and (because hot) sweaty work.
คςєภคгtєς๏
2022-07-02T19:56:26.000Z
yeah.
คςєภคгtєς๏
2022-07-02T19:56:52.000Z
when we were looking for our house, which was like.... four years ago now? we had to make offers same day, or at most the day after, if we wanted a chance.
คςєภคгtєς๏
2022-07-02T19:57:04.000Z
and my parents are moving now too, and they had the same issue.
คςєภคгtєς๏
2022-07-02T19:57:07.000Z
it's.... really insane.
seastheday
2022-07-02T20:25:52.000Z
It is COMPLETELY insane.
ᴅᴀᴡɴᴛʀᴇᴀᴅᴇʀ
2022-07-02T23:51:11.000Z
Yeah that's wildly insane
ᴅᴀᴡɴᴛʀᴇᴀᴅᴇʀ
2022-07-02T23:51:17.000Z
All the good luck in your direction, tho
«Wᴀɴᴅᴇʀᴇʀ»
2022-07-03T00:39:14.000Z
house hunting sucks ass (esp right now) and you might be in for a bit of a long haul, it's good that you have several months leeway
but you'll get there eventually!
seastheday
2022-07-03T02:02:49.000Z
We found another real good place tonight that is fresh on the market so maaaaaybe we can get it. It’s a duplex but it’s REALLY NICE.
seastheday
2022-07-03T18:46:31.000Z
Offer is in on the house. /nervous
คςєภคгtєς๏
2022-07-03T19:05:30.000Z
fingers crossed!!!
seastheday
2022-07-03T19:33:38.000Z
I’m REALLY hoping we get it.
seastheday
2022-07-04T15:08:15.000Z
Well, things are signed on the offer, but apparently there were lots of offers. :-(
seastheday
2022-07-04T15:09:01.000Z
So now we just have to wait to see if they pick ours, which they likely won't because we initially offered just the asking amount. We're willing to negotiate on that, but didn't want to OFFER more in this particular case without being asked.
seastheday
2022-07-04T15:09:20.000Z
But there was a SUPER WEIRD like "you have to sign these documents super fast" thing at the end of all of this that I DO NOT LIKE.
seastheday
2022-07-04T15:10:03.000Z
I was able to at least skim them and everything initially LOOKED fine, but I would have ideally wanted to pour over them a bit more and it FELT really scummy even though I don't actually think it was.
seastheday
2022-07-04T15:10:55.000Z
And the part about all of this that is the most shitty is that like...
seastheday
2022-07-04T15:11:44.000Z
That house was only on the market three days before we started to put in our offer. And we also looked at houses 2 and 3 days ago. So the likelihood that we have already lost the other houses we looked at is REALLY high.
seastheday
2022-07-04T15:11:54.000Z
Even though it's only been like, 48 hours.
seastheday
2022-07-04T15:13:31.000Z
I hate this.
seastheday
2022-07-06T16:44:04.000Z
Well, we lost the house we wanted, so we're back to looking/trying to find out information about other houses.
seastheday
2022-07-06T16:44:29.000Z
There's one we would put an offer on except the house has a pool and the pool is in DEEPLY bad repair.
seastheday
2022-07-06T16:45:12.000Z
We're waiting to see if they'll either bring the price down or (more likely) give us some kind of "fix the pool" allowance, because right now it looks like it's something like 15k in repairs which is a big no from me thanks.
seastheday
2022-07-06T16:45:38.000Z
But it would be REALLY NICE to actually have a pool and the house is... weird af, but also really unique and interesting because it's weird af.
seastheday
2022-07-06T16:45:57.000Z
It's definitely one of those houses where I walked into it and looked at my SO and was just like "Wow, choices were made"
seastheday
2022-07-06T16:46:56.000Z
Example, but not the only thing: which rooms are carpeted and which rooms are tiled are totally arbitrary.
seastheday
2022-07-06T16:48:19.000Z
Only shaded porch part is on the side of the house right outside the kitchen window, which has a sill on the outside so it almost looks like a drivethru. But there's no shade around the pool or the back of the house.
seastheday
2022-07-06T16:48:55.000Z
The master bedroom is long and narrow and split level for some reason?
seastheday
2022-07-06T16:49:12.000Z
Choices were made. And yet, it's kind of charming. It's a big no if they aren't going to do anythign about the pool though.
seastheday
2022-07-09T21:02:44.000Z
HOUSE.
seastheday
2022-07-09T21:02:53.000Z
HOUSE HOUSE HOUSE HOOOOOOUSE.
seastheday
2022-07-09T21:03:31.000Z
There’s still stuff that could theoretically go wrong but our offer was accepted and we’ve signed the first set of paperwork.
«Wᴀɴᴅᴇʀᴇʀ»
2022-07-09T21:08:11.000Z
hell yeah!!! congrats!
seastheday
2022-07-09T21:16:35.000Z
We ended up with a house that isn’t even one of the ones I talked about here- just kind of came out of nowhere and ticked all our boxes
seastheday
2022-07-09T21:17:00.000Z
We’d seen it before but it was originally listed WAY too high to consider.
seastheday
2022-07-09T21:18:11.000Z
(Not going to say exact amounts on here but it was originally listed for 16k more than we’re buying it for)
seastheday
2022-07-09T21:18:55.000Z
And we saw it but were like “lol nope”. But they dropped it down and we actually negotiated it down a little more than that.
seastheday
2022-07-09T21:19:37.000Z
And it’s EVERYTHING we were looking for. Absolutely everything.
seastheday
2022-07-09T21:19:47.000Z
I am beside myself.
ᴅᴀᴡɴᴛʀᴇᴀᴅᴇʀ
2022-07-09T22:09:23.000Z
Congrats! Super, super happy for you!
whiphand
2022-07-09T22:32:07.000Z
that's awesome!!
seastheday
2022-07-12T19:56:17.000Z
All the paperwork and crap for house buying is a constant stream of pain. I hope this slows down in a few days.
คςєภคгtєς๏
2022-07-12T22:20:58.000Z
yay!!!
seastheday
2022-07-13T02:43:22.000Z
I want to get back to my pretendy fun times, but I am just EXHAUSTED. There’s so MUCH.
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