we're going up for the second memorial for my grandad, and technically it's a combined memorial for both my grandparents, since Grandma died a couple months before the pandemic and people up there didn't get to have one for her before quarantine.

and of course, there is Family Drama™

one of my cousins is just ... really having a rough time? and my parent's generation is not being very gentle with him

and like, it's really complicated and my parents and aunts and uncles don't really know how to be around him?

and we all want to know if he's coming up, and he's not responding to any messages from at least me and two other cousins I have talked with.

like he has a big concert next week? but could still take a day or two and come up?

this is probably the first time in 15 years that most of the family is gonna be there?

eeeeeehhg. I mean, everyone grieves different and he's just really been isolated from the family and he and my dad really have not been getting along?

and I don't even know how to talk to him or even have a regular conversation? like holy shit, he reads as really neurodivergent with rapidly failing coping mechanisms...

it's a lot and I am rapidly running out of time to resolve the issue.

(which I know is definitely not my job and I am not my cousin's keeper)

/hugs

and like, holy shit my dad and my uncle have been so bitchy about this.

/hugs/

/hugs
it's really hard when some people want a certain level of interaction from a family member and that person just won't. because there's an extent to which everyone is right, usually, it's just that they dog their heels in instead of trying compromise. I'm sorry you are dealing with that

we're up and holy crap, I forgot home much I love it up here.

it's so quiet up here? despite the 25 people up here