didn't want my gift, and spent the whole night bitching about my brother. We ended up getting take away Mexican, that's what she wanted...

it was an insult to real mexican food, but we ate it anyway. So I'm feeling quite ill today, glands are huge, sluggish, headache...

And I'm still a little upset about some things she said about why she's not going to try to quit smoking and eat better.

She's only 46, and thinks she's too old to change. I argued the fact that she has a 4 year old daughter that needs her around...

and she just says that if anything happens to her, her sister will take Madyson , so she's comfortable with that.

what can I do but just be there and keep trying to change her mind?